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Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE…Bad Habits BE Damned?

Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE…

Bad Habits BE Damned?

Everybody’s got them … “bad” or negative habits. It could be anything from not drinking water to negative self-talk… to adopting a victim mentality.
Listen to my interview with Karyn Beach and Jean Day, as we explore Living LIFE on Purpose… instead of life by default. We talk strategies and thinking that can help YOU put those habits in the path and help YOU make decisions and Live a LIFE that makes YOUR Tail Wag!

Listen NOW:

Here’s to Celebrating YOUR LIFE!

BE The Source Within YOU…Now!

Have a Magnificent Day…Everyday!



Gratitude Empowers Us! Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Yes…Gratitude Empowers Us!

“Gratitude is knowing we Live in an abundant world…
with more than enough good to spare and share.
Of this, I AM certain!”  -Rhonda Maria Farrah, MA, DRWA

Are you living with love, gratitude, and thankfulness…
or hanging out in that fear and doubt place?


IT means rejecting thoughts of doubt, despair, and discouragement. It means living life as if everything were a miracle. It means welcoming confidence, joy, and hope. It means
appreciating how much we’ve been given as we go forward to the
certain realization of our dreams.

Gratitude shifts our focus from lack to the abundance that is ours
for the asking. Practice positive thinking and positive experiencing
until they become so natural to us that they flow effortlessly and
manifest surprisingly life improvements by introducing gratitude into
our daily lives.

On this Eve of Thanksgiving Day…I invite YOU to greet each moment with the thankfulness of all that is yours. Smile in the face of trivial annoyances, and remain calm in times of stress.
Fortify YourSelf with Truth to carry you unscathed through negative
experiences. It is in our Knowing that the acceptance of Truth melts
negative appearances and attracts the people, places and activities
that will work to our best advantage…For our Highest and Best Good, as well as, the Highest and Best Good of all concerned.

Act with personal Authentic Power and effectiveness… in lieu of
knee-jerk responses.  Yes, respond thoughtfully and gratefully , rather than merely reacting, to all that Life offers and brings us.

Yes…Beginnning Today, decide once and for all to show gratitude for the challenges that arise in your personal and business life. See “problems” as opportunities
for growth. Stay positive as you go about your day. Be grateful and
persevere not only for YourSelf, but for those who look to You for
guidance and inspiration.

Today, I invite YOU to challenge YourSelf to be happy for all that
you have been given… Happiness lives in the mountains of your
higher consciousness, among the rivers of flowing self-expression,
against the sky of an enlightened attitude, free from clouds of doubt
and negativity.

BE The Source Within YOU…Now!

Today will bring You a new awareness, a lesson, a manifestation
that you are making progress – BELIEVE IT! BE GRATEFUL!
And, give thanks!

With Love and In Gratitude…Wishing You and Your Families a Blessed, Joyous, and Peace-filled Thanksgiving the whole year through!


How Breast cancer Empowered Me…Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

…On Empowerment Through Breast cancer…

October is Breast cancer Awareness Month.

So…This is what I Know.

There is a lot of fellowship among breast cancer survivors. People tell Breast cancer personal stories, go on Breast cancer walks, and join Breast cancer support groups in order to be closer to other survivors…as well as, Thrivors…that’s Thriving Breast cancer survivor…of which I AM Blessed to BE!!!

Being close to other breast cancer survivors/Thrivors prevents the loneliness many women feel who have had…or have Breast cancer.  And…You can learn a lot about Breast cancer from hearing Breast cancer personal stories.

Please keep this Essential in mind as you read on…in all of Life…

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Perhaps…One of the greatest difficulties in Life is facing one’s own mortality. The incidence of Breast cancer, as well as, Living with Breast cancer, and the uncertainty of it’s outcome can be a time of emotional, physical, and Spiritual upheaval in one’s life. It is often said that with great difficulties comes personal growth. This personal growth and strength can also bring a sense of accomplishment: “I made it…I finished my chemotherapy and radiation treatments and I am here to talk about it.” You reflect on what you have learned. I sure did!  The Breast cancer experience brought me to another place that I just had not encountered in “normal” everyday life. It is an experience that stands alone, and is set apart from everything else that has ever happened to me.

Often others will say how much they admire you for the strength you showed in coping with Breast cancer.  Accept and be proud of not only getting through breast cancer treatments but also for the Wisdom the experience has taught You….has taught us. We are now in a position to give back and it will feel good.  We can choose to Empower others… share what worked for us during our experience and expression of Breast cancer, and offer encouragement to someone who has been newly diagnosed.  Empowerment knows that no matter what situation we are in that there is always something positive we can do.

Given choices…No one chooses to grow by inviting Life’s difficulties… but this is how Empowerment begins… and together with personal growth we emerge as individuals with Courage, Empowered to BE Our True Self.

Feeling Empowered is subjective… and varies from individual to individual.  But the Universal Truth of Empowerment comes from the knowledge that We have options and control over Our choices… the ability to make those choices… and the responsibility for the choices We make.

Empowerment is that feeling and conviction that comes from having gone through a difficult situation and made it.  Capturing our “new normal” is taking that newly Empowered Self… and using IT to form a new and improved YOU.  The way YOU viewed YourSelf in the world and how YOU filled your days prior to having Breast cancer will take on new meaning. Your perspective may not change at all… but for most women living with breast cancer, the experience enriches their Lives and takes Life down a new path.   Finding Empowerment no matter what stage of Breast cancer treatment You are in…regardless of what season of Life You are experiencing… is about using it to create a “new normal” for YourSelf.

As a significant aside, please know that…Women are natural attractors. Yet due to cultural programming, many women have lost their way, and we end up approaching work like a man. The masculine program is all about goal-setting and goal-getting; this rarely works for women in the long-term. Instead, women must fill our cup first with what makes us come alive, and be immersed in a community of support, adventure, and inspiration. And then, we blossom…and attract!

The Dalai Lama said that the world will be saved by Western Women.  I happen to think he was right.

As a LIFEstyle Empowerment  Author, Coach, and Speaker who has worked closely with women for over a decade, I find that deep-down, women naturally desire to create work that makes a difference in the world. The most important thing we can do is to discover and pursue work we Love. This is essential for our Happiness…for our Health and Well-BEING!

Human nature for many reasons focuses on living. People are busy making plans, setting financial goals, establishing career moves, building a family life, and not dwelling on the end. Often much time is wasted on unimportant things that are valued at that moment or time in your Life. Having Breast cancer brings Your mortality to the forefront. What your beliefs have been before now may be questioned as the reality sets in that our Life on earth is only temporary.  Of this…I AM personally certain!

Life is meant to be Lived. You are a unique partner in Life… with Purpose and Meaning to your existence! So… Why not Live it with a participatory viewpoint?  I Truly Believe…It is easier to prioritize the important things, experiences, and people in your Life when you have dealt firsthand with challenging situations…Breast cancer being one of them. You can choose to waste less time or waste more time. Spend less time at non-Purpose and non-Meaning work  and experiences…and more time enjoying Your family and friends, Nature…and that which Truly Makes your Tail Wag.

Here’s yet another Essential to ponder…

While It is only one way of Living…Living with the end in mind is one way to participate in your Life with a Zest, Awareness, and Appreciation that may go unnoticed prior to having Breast cancer. Being diagnosed with Breast cancer is not a gift in itself, but the Wisdom that comes from the experience is a gift that can enrich and fulfill your life.  Trust and Believe…I know…as I often referred to my own diagnosis of Breast cancer as…”Not the best news, but not the worse news either!”

Once we have come face to face with our challenges…the “bad”…the “ugly”…even mortality, then we can Truly Live. In that Spirit, Debbie Mazza-Taylor, who lost her five-year experience with Breast cancer just days before her forty-first birthday, wrote this poem:

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind?

And to melt into the sun.  And what is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath From its restless tides, that it may rise and expand Seeking God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence Shall you indeed sing.

And when you have reached the mountaintop Then you shall begin to climb.

And when earth shall claim your limbs, Then shall you truly dance.

My philosophy includes that Life is meant to be Lived with the thought that… Life is not a dress rehearsal — You only have one chance at it….and, yes…The Show must go on!  Of this…I AM certain!

Today…I invite YOU to BE The Source Within You…Now!

Remember…Have a Magnificent Day…Everyday!

To Our Health & Empowerment Together!

With Love & Blessings!


“There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire.”  -Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

On Wisdom…Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

On Wisdom…

“ Wisdom is your perspective on life, your sense of balance, your understanding of how the various parts and principles apply and relate to each other. It embraces judgment, discernment, comprehension. It is a gestalt or oneness, an integrated wholeness. ”
-Stephen R. Covey

Yes… Wisdom is your perspective! You own IT… And that’s how you arrive at your sense of Self… Your wholeness, completeness and perfection!

Have you ever been in the spot where friends, although meaning well, are offering you advice… But, it just isn’t right for you. That advice almost always comes from the other person’s idea of what is correct for them. It’s wonderful if that advice happens to be right for you. But if it isn’t right for you it can really get in your way! Of this, I am certain!

Today… I invite YOU to help yourSelf, as well as, others by seeking and offering that help that connects you to your own wisdom.
It is our own wisdom that provides us the fullness and joy of being ourSelf!

BE The Source Within YOU…Now!

Remember…Have a Magnificent Day… Everyday!


On Service…Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

On Service…

“You cannot hope to build a better world without improving the individuals. To that end, each of us must work for our own improvement and, at the same time, share a general responsibility for all humanity, our particular duty being to aid those to whom we think we can be most useful.” -Madame Marie Curie

So… This is what I Know.

All That we have here on earth is borrowed… It belongs to the Universe. It is God’s…Spirit’s, and we have the use of IT for the time we are here on this planet.

Know the Truth… Whatever we have been blessed with is multiplied when we share it with others. When we do… We get. Not at all in the sense that we give in order to receive… But in the sense that by giving, we receive in return unexpected blessings, Goodness, and success!

When we find that we are caught up in our own challenges and fears… The best recourse is often to distract ourSelves by reaching out to someone… By BEing in Service to others!

Other-directed living becomes a way of life. For me… It feels great to touch another’s life with my heart and Spirit… With love… As well as possessions.

Today… I invite YOU to share yourSelf with the world. Reach out to someone in need… And ask, “How can I help?”… Even if you don’t know what YOU could do.
Today… BE in Service! YOU will be blessed at least tenfold! Of this, I AM certain!

BE The Source Within YOU…Now!

Have a Magnificent day… Everyday!


On Everlasting Love…Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

On Everlasting Love…

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. -Khalil Gibran

So… This is what I Know.

Love heals.
Love enters our life to others once we begin to love ourSelves.
And at that awesome, inspirational point… When we can say without hesitation
“I love YOU💕“, to ourSelves … All our strengths and weaknesses ….the good, and otherwise ..that we love ourSelves in spite of, and because of it all…This is the point when, and where, love can grow!

For we remain the seed….we remain The nourishment… We, indeed, remain the Harvest! Of this, I AM certain!

Today, especially in this Harvest Season, I invite YOU to follow your heart… To know the Love that YOU are!

BE The Source Within YOU…Now!

Have a Magnificent day…Everyday!


On Energy…Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

On this Labor Day Weekend, greetings to YOU for living up to the challenges, for striving and thriving… and for never giving up to circumstances.

Wishing YOU…Your family, and community a very Happy Labor Day Weekend.

On Energy…

We do not create energy, we distribute it, and in the natural sciences, we know that we can transform energy from one type to another. So the will may decide what form the energy is to take, but it cannot nor does it need to create the energy. -Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind

So… This is what I Know.

We have all the energy we need to do and BE everything we are called to do and BE. We have all we need Spiritually to change, and to grow!
Just Know that!

Trust and believe…nothing stays the same! Know in your heart, as well as your mind, that whatever troubles appear overwhelming today, they shall pass. It is through faith and Knowing, not merely hope, that we transition to where we need to be through whatever challenges and struggles we may face.

Know In your heart that when we stop attempting the new, fail to take chances, and refuse to face our fears, we will stagnate. We will no longer evolve into the Divine BEing that we are.

Today…I invite YOU to claim your energy!

Refuse to become complacent!

Keep changing! Keep dreaming! Keep growing!
Our Divine energy is always available to us! Of this, I AM certain!

BE The Source within You…Now!

Remember…Have a Magnificent day…Everyday!


On Authentic Self…Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

On Authentic Self…

“There is an urge to express in all people, and this urge, operating through the channels of Creative Mind looses energy into action. Back of all this is the impulse of Spirit to express.” -Ernest Holmes, Science of Mind

Ask YourSelf… What and how AM I expressing and releasing to the Universe to flow and BE?

We direct how Creative Mind experiences and expresses in our Life…Productively… Or, perhaps, at times, non-productively. The choice is always ours. We can choose to express our best… Or we can choose to experience and express our not so best. Yes… We choose Success… Or not!

Today… I invite YOU to BE in tune with Creative Mind flowing within YOU… As YOU …through YOU!
BE in tune with the Divine plan for Your Life.
Gratefully…fully intend and claim all the great news and miracles YOU are going to receive in every area of Your Life today!

Say, “YES” to Creative Mind today… Loosing your Authentic Power…Spirit, Source, Universe…God to act on Your BEhalf… And provide all that You Desire!

BE The Source Within YOU…Now!

Have a Magnificent day… Everyday!


On Happiness…Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Thought 4 Today… Thought 4 LIFE!

On Happiness…

“Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate. So practice happy thinking every day. Cultivate the merry heart, develop the happiness habit, and life will become a continual feast.”
-Norman Vincent Peale

So… This is what I Know!

Peace of mind comes with the recognition that happiness is totally & unequivocally in our control! Like Turning on The light to a darkened room, feelings of joy and bliss are ours when we choose to turn on our inner light… Which is forever charged and ready to shine.

Much like a new pair of glasses improve our vision, a new attitude can provide a clear …a brighter outlook. Let In light and clarity and allow your soul to soar! Visualize… And feel unlimited possibilities!

The secret to finding lasting happiness is seeing the invisible… That which cannot be seen by the naked eye…

“We must trust the Invisible, for IT is the sole cause of that which is visible.” Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind

…That which lives in our very soul.

During good times, it’s easy to be happy. During trying times, we must seek that which cannot be seen… Those blessings in disguise! Of this, I AM certain!

Today… I invite YOU to let your Soul Soar!

BE The Source Within YOU…Now!

Have a Magnificent day…Everyday!


On Change…Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

Thought 4 Today…Thought 4 LIFE!

On Change..

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. -Maya Angelou

So… This is what I Know!

LIFE is for the living!

Everything that is alive is changing moment by moment!

When and where there is no change… There is no LIFE!

Today… I invite YOU to embrace Life…welcoming change into every aspect of your Being!

Today… I invite YOU to make fear your friend… Set your Spirit free… Try something different… Make new friends… Eat a foreign food…Take a different route…

Today… List what feels comfortable and safe in your life. Then, if only in the slightest ways, change it… For it remains out of our comfort zone that LIFE begins!

BE The Source Within YOU…Now!

Have a Magnificent day… Everyday!